Addressing the Squirter in the Room

By The Babes (Katie Harbinson and Maddie Womack)
Art by Sarah Forgey

One of our most asked-about topics is squirting. What is it? How do I make my partner squirt? How do I make it less messy?  Is it normal to squirt (or not)? We’re here to give the people what they want. And the people very much would like to squirt. 

So…. What is squirting?

Before we get into it, let’s address the elephant in the room. Squirting is not pee. While it comes from the bladder and contains a little urea, it’s most similar to water. The exact makeup of a squirt varies by person, as does the volume of liquid squirted. As shocking as it may seem, the fire hydrant-esque portrayal of squirting in porn isn’t the most accurate. While some people do experience large squirts, some people only squirt a little. It’s very common to have squirted before and just not known it! In fact, anywhere from 10-75% of those with a vagina report squirting at some point. Why the big range? Well, the data on squirting is largely self-reported, so there are some gaps in what we know about squirting. In a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 10-54% of participants reported squirting, but in a study published in 2017 by the same journal, 75% did. Overall, it’s totally normal to squirt, and totally normal not to.

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We Tried a $33 Sex Swing and Now You Also Have to

By The Babes (Maddie Womack & Katie Harbinson)

Once upon a time, The Babes™ lived in the magical land of Kansas City. The rent was high, our standards were low, and sex was on our minds. So we thought to ourselves, how DOES one ball(s) (haha) on a budget? The answer left us feeling conflicted: Amazon. We’re ashamed to admit it, but we’re non-profit employees in our 20s. We love trying new sex toys, but our bank accounts do not. So with that, a babe volunteered to give it a swing. Which babe you ask? You’ll have to guess 😉

COME ON, SWING IT. Ok, we must confess, the babe who was first enticed with the concept of a sex swing was just a bit intimidated by it. Before a bit of research, we imagined they were super hard to install, expensive, and well, inconvenient. Post-research, we realized we were wrong—oops!

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A Sexy Gift Guide from The Babes

By Katie Harbinson and Maddie Womack

As much as we hate the consumerism around the holidays, you know we love treating ourselves to a new toy or two.  Here’s our official gift guide for anyone on the naughty or nice list:

Coming in Clutch

Unbound Babes

For the person who loves a minimal and sleek toy that really packs a punch, Unbound Babes recently launched a new and beautiful rabbit-esque toy called the Clutch. While we love anything Unbound Babes makes, the Clutch is particularly stunning. It vibrates AND thrusts. (Can confirm more than one of our staff members swear by this vibe.)

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Sexual Health: A Field Study to STIs

Our understanding of STIs starts from government complicity of Black and queer deaths

By Katie Harbinson and Maddie Womack

When it comes to our sexual health, STIs are more common than you might think. The CDC estimates that one in five people have had a sexually transmitted infection. And yet, with that prevalence, there’s still a stigma around STIs. 

You might have previously heard these infections called sexually transmitted diseases or STDs, but many professionals and activists are moving away from that term. The American Sexual Health Association explains: “the concept of ‘disease,’ as in STD, suggests a clear medical problem, usually some obvious signs or symptoms. But many common STDs have no signs or symptoms in most of the people who have them. Or they have mild signs and symptoms that can be easily overlooked. So the sexually transmitted virus or bacteria can be described as creating ‘infection,’ which may or may not result in ‘disease.’” Many public health professionals also prefer the term STI, because of the stigma associated with the word “disease.” Stigma around sexual health stems from many factors (don’t even get us started), but today we want to dive into the history of the sexual health field and how it has laid the groundwork for some of those stigmas.

It’s important to start at the beginning. Much of the information on STIs that we have today was discovered due to unethical testing on Black bodies and overall government neglect of queer health—resulting in unnecessary suffering and deaths. We’re going to walk through some of these histories, to help us all better understand and destigmatize STIs. History classes in the education system tend to skip over these stories, and even those who lived through these government-inflicted tragedies were actively fed misinformation. Hell, we still don’t even have the whole story. Not all deaths or illnesses involved in these events were accurately recorded. But these stories contribute to the rightful distrust of the government and its healthcare systems today, as well as the stigmas that resulted from them. In order to properly destigmatize sexually transmitted infections and sexual health in general, we believe we must first understand and learn of its roots. 

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For All Your Sex Ed Questions, Call the Babes: A new column from Barrier Babes and Catcall

By Katie Harbinson and Maddie Womack

So here’s the deal. We’re really big fans of sex. 

Sex education to be exact. 

We’re Maddie and Katie, the faces behind Barrier Babes. Barrier Babes is an organization passionate about bringing unapologetic, inclusive, and comprehensive sex education across the midwest. You might have seen us at Kansas City abortion rallies or Women’s Marches. You might’ve even seen our condoms at venues around town. In our spare time, we enjoy drinking iced coffee and running across the Kansas City metro area to distribute free condoms. Simply put, we try to make risky behavior less risky. We’re proud to be longtime readers of Catcall and are beyond excited to officially partner with our favorite digital magazine!

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