By The Babes (Katie Harbinson and Maddie Womack)
Art by Sarah Forgey
One of our most asked-about topics is squirting. What is it? How do I make my partner squirt? How do I make it less messy? Is it normal to squirt (or not)? We’re here to give the people what they want. And the people very much would like to squirt.
So…. What is squirting?
Before we get into it, let’s address the elephant in the room. Squirting is not pee. While it comes from the bladder and contains a little urea, it’s most similar to water. The exact makeup of a squirt varies by person, as does the volume of liquid squirted. As shocking as it may seem, the fire hydrant-esque portrayal of squirting in porn isn’t the most accurate. While some people do experience large squirts, some people only squirt a little. It’s very common to have squirted before and just not known it! In fact, anywhere from 10-75% of those with a vagina report squirting at some point. Why the big range? Well, the data on squirting is largely self-reported, so there are some gaps in what we know about squirting. In a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 10-54% of participants reported squirting, but in a study published in 2017 by the same journal, 75% did. Overall, it’s totally normal to squirt, and totally normal not to.
A squirt is also different from ejaculation, which is most similar to semen. This is a milky and smaller-volume substance that comes from two prostatic glands around the urethra. The discovery of this ejaculate is relatively new, with studies really only starting within the last decade or so. That 2013 study we mentioned earlier: not only did it delve into self-reported squirting and orgasm numbers, but it also completed a chemical analysis of ejaculation.
For many, squirting happens at the same time as an orgasm; for some, these can be entirely different experiences. Those who experience squirting and orgasm simultaneously liken squirting to a next-level orgasm. Across the board, people enjoy squirting because it is a more intense and pleasurable experience, which often makes sex a better time. Similarly to other sex acts that give pleasure, many take pride in or enjoy making their partner squirt since it is such an intense feeling. Since squirting is so misunderstood, some also find pleasure in the taboo nature of squirting or making someone squirt.
Across the board, people enjoy squirting because it is a more intense and pleasurable experience, which often makes sex a better time
How do I make things less messy?
There are a few options for making clean-up a bit easier. Towels are typically the most common and affordable option; we suggest laying down a towel (or two) before sex, either under a sheet or on top of it. There are also options like the Squirtpad, PlayDrop Blanket, and The Layer for those looking to spend a bit of $$. And if you’re looking for something more affordable, water proof dog blankets will also do the trick. These options are also great for period sex, anal play, or just avoiding lube stains on your sheets.
How do I actually make my partner squirt?
Start with the basics here—does your partner want to squirt? Is this something they’re comfortable doing or is this something you just really want to try? Consent is always key. We also encourage keeping things relaxed, taking your time, and really knowing what turns your partner on and off. In a word: foreplay. It’s good shit.
Among those who squirt, G spot stimulation is considered top tier. Just like with any sex act, everyone’s bodies are different and have different likes and dislikes. Communication during sex is hot, essential, and fun. Finding the G sport is also pretty easy. It lives about an inch to an inch and a half inside the vagina and has a different texture than the rest of the vaginal wall. The G spot is usually more spongey, sometimes rubbery, and is made of erectile tissue. Some people prefer more pressure, others prefer stroking, and some prefer a combination of both! When in doubt, just ask your partner what they want, need, or enjoy. Again: communication. We love to see it.
Until next squirt,
Katie Harbinson (she/her) is a Kansas City transplant with a background in political campaigns. She is passionate about disability representation, breaking down the gender binary, and homoerotic undertones in her favorite TV shows. When not trying to convince her partner that they need to adopt another dog, Katie can be found consuming copious amounts of coffee and sarcastically commenting on the current political climate.
Maddie Womack (she/her) is the Founder/CEO of Barrier Babes. Her degree in Community Health and Minor in Women, Gender, and Sexuality Studies reflects her passion for healthcare and equality within it. Through an intersectional lens, Maddie strives to find spaces to not only include sex education, but require it.
Design by Sarah Forgey. Logo design by Kylie Alvarez.