Tag: sex education

Beginner’s Guide to Bondage: Techniques and Safety Tips

Leave a comment

By Laura Henry

Are you thinking about trying BDSM and not sure where to start? If you’re curious about how BDSM could enhance or transform your intimate experiences you can start with a simple experiment that features a few techniques before committing to a full dungeon room. Most BDSM is psychological, and there are some scenes you can try with various household items to decide whether it’s right for you. 

Are you ready to find out whether your BDSM fantasies will hold up in real life? Check out some BDSM safety tips and techniques from the experts before getting started.

Continue reading →

A First Timer’s Guide to Butt Stuff 

1 Comment

By The Babes (Katie Harbinson and Maddie Womack)
Art by Sarah Forgey & Whitney Young

Sometimes I reminisce on the first and only time I did poppers (an inhalant that causes muscle relaxation and dilation of the blood vessels)—on the dancefloor of a local queer club on a night out with friends. Over the sound of thumping bass, a mustached man dressed as a pilot educated me—a queer woman in her twenties—on how to inhale it properly, and then immediately asked if my butthole felt loose. I didn’t notice it. And come to think of it, I don’t often notice my butthole. Honestly, I neglect it sexually, mainly because I don’t know enough about it to incorporate it regularly.

Anal has been a thing for forever. We know this. It’s also a popular and pleasurable sex act in the gay community, and amongst queer people with penises in general. So much so, that cishet men will avoid washing their asses to avoid being perceived as gay. I don’t know—I heard it on TikTok. But if you’re homophobic, chances are you’re unsanitary. I don’t make the rules. 

Continue reading →

But I’m a Comedian, a Sexy Variety Show and Barrier Babes Fundraiser

2 Comments

Join Catcall, the Kansas City-based intersectional feminist collective, on July 13 for But I’m a Comedian at Crossroads Hotel—a night of cocktails and laughter benefiting Kansas City sex educators, Barrier Babes. The evening will begin with a local vendors market, include spicy raffle prizes, and conclude with a special edition of the comedy and draglesque showcase by Body Language.

Continue reading →

The Safe Slut talks herpes awareness and making memes

Leave a comment

By Sophia-Joelle McDowell 

When Tricia Wise, or Safe Slut, was diagnosed with genital herpes in November of 2019, everything changed. Shut down your unconscious biases here, because things changed in an unpredictably positive way.   

Like most of us, Tricia didn’t receive any education about STIs growing up, apart from the common lecture that they’re the worst thing that can happen. After receiving the news of her herpes diagnosis, she spent days in bed and thought her sex life was over. 

These days, Tricia believes getting herpes was the best thing to ever happen to her. 

That diagnosis forced her to advocate for herself and have vulnerable conversations. It took her on a transformative journey of self-love and reclaiming her sexuality. She was even able to work through previous sexual trauma from past relationships and experiences. 

Continue reading →

Addressing the Squirter in the Room

Leave a comment

By The Babes (Katie Harbinson and Maddie Womack)
Art by Sarah Forgey

One of our most asked-about topics is squirting. What is it? How do I make my partner squirt? How do I make it less messy?  Is it normal to squirt (or not)? We’re here to give the people what they want. And the people very much would like to squirt. 

So…. What is squirting?

Before we get into it, let’s address the elephant in the room. Squirting is not pee. While it comes from the bladder and contains a little urea, it’s most similar to water. The exact makeup of a squirt varies by person, as does the volume of liquid squirted. As shocking as it may seem, the fire hydrant-esque portrayal of squirting in porn isn’t the most accurate. While some people do experience large squirts, some people only squirt a little. It’s very common to have squirted before and just not known it! In fact, anywhere from 10-75% of those with a vagina report squirting at some point. Why the big range? Well, the data on squirting is largely self-reported, so there are some gaps in what we know about squirting. In a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 10-54% of participants reported squirting, but in a study published in 2017 by the same journal, 75% did. Overall, it’s totally normal to squirt, and totally normal not to.

Continue reading →